My paternal grandfather passed away this past Monday. I was fortunate enough to have all four of my grandparents alive until this point; not many people can say that.

Tomorrow, I will be addressing the family and his friends with the eulogy. I was honored to be given the opportunity and I think that my view of death is why I was chosen to speak.

The loss of a loved one affects us all in many ways. Some like to grieve privately, others prefer the company of others. Some bury themselves in their work while others avoid it. There are those who like to talk about their lost loved ones, and others who do not. Death, for me, does not signify an end. It is a beginning of a new life, and it deserves to be celebrated as such.

In the last chapter of the Return of the King, the main characters all board the last ship leaving Middle Earth, as their lives on there have come to an end. Before departing, Gandalf approaches his melancholy, weeping friends and gives them the following message:

"Here at last, on the shores of the sea, comes the end of our Fellowship. Go in peace! I will not say do not weep; for not all tears are an evil."

In essence, the author is telling us that it is okay to weep when a loved one passes, as long as than they are tears of happiness. He uses the common metaphor of a ship sailing into the endless sea to signify the characters' passing and leaving their loved ones behind, but infers that feelings of happiness are most important at this time.

While I am sad and will miss my grandfather dearly, I am happy for him at the same time. For what is never mentioned in that common metaphor of the sailing ship is what awaits its passenger on the other side of the sea. When Pop completes his journey, he will be greeted by the cheering, applause and laughter of so many family and friends whom have passed before him, welcoming him with open arms into his new, everlasting life.

And I take comfort in knowing that when my ship sails, Pop-Pop will be first one waiting for me at that big white gate.

Go get 'em Redhead.